the first two weeks of this year I have lost two wonderful friends. They were loved by those who knew them and their lives touched countless others.
In thinking of them I thought it might be appropriate to reprint some thoughts I wrote some time ago. So for now, my friends, I hope you know how much you meant to so many and that in this life I have been so blessed to know you.
Here is my epilogue from August 24, 2015.
I have been to seven funerals in the past seven weeks and have lost two very goods friends during the past two months whose services I couldn’t attend.
Some were close friends, some were parents of those I grew up with, some were well known while others were known only to their friends and family. But all of them had two things in common. All were loved and all, no matter their age, saw their days end far too soon.
My grandmother would remind me often that there are only so many tomorrows.
I wish I had taken the opportunity to have seen or spoken to my friends who are now gone. Some of their deaths came unexpectedly, some I knew were ill, but I let life get in the way. I thought there would be plenty of time – plenty of tomorrows. I was wrong.
It is sad that it takes a tragic loss to tell us of what we already know. There are only so many tomorrows.
I find it strange that we all know this and sadly it is when we lose someone we know or love that we promise to do better. We promise ourselves and those we are close to that we will keep in touch, we will drop by, and we will have lunch or dinner together. We mean well and then we forget. We let life get in the way.
We forget there are only so many tomorrows.
Our lives are not solely about us. More and more it seems that modern and conventional thought has seemed to gravitate to just living in the moment and being the center our own universe. What can we derive from the world to meet our needs – to make us happy?
The poet Ralph Waldo Emerson one wrote, “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it made some difference that you have lived and lived well.“
No matter how long we are here our lives are short – and we really don’t truly live them until we give them away. And to do so we need to find what the world needs, what our community needs and give it freely.
But I believe we should start with those closest to us. If you have something to say to some one you love, if there is something you need to mend do it now – don’t waste time.
We must hold on fast to all you have been given in this life for we have no idea how long we will have it. It all can change in the blink of an eye or in a beat of a heart.Don’t take your life for granted. There are only so many tomorrows.